Have you ever been wronged? Oh, silly me. Of course you have! We all have, right? I mean, how many of us have had a bf/gf break up with us for our "best friend", or, better yet, cheat on us? I know I have. (I was called a prude in high school... pfft.) But, how quickly did you forgive the person? Did it take a long time? Did the wrong fester to the point you were beyond the ability to forgive and on the brink of wanting to seek revenge? I mean, let's face it, we have all wanted revenge. A cheating boyfriend/girlfriend (have I mentioned it happened to me?), someone does something to hurt your child (in which case, I would definitely want to play the part of Karma), a friend stabs you in the back - it was absolutely that way in high school and my early twenties. I remember telling people I would never forgive them, but I did. I forgave (not always forgot)... for me. I do not like holding grudges. I do get angry, and am quick to action (especially to defend myself or a loved one - or to stand up for what I feel is right), but I forgive a wrong done to me even if I never receive an apology from a person. I feel better, happier. Lighter. I feel more content without the weight of a grudge on my shoulders. A grudge is a heavy burden to bear. What about you? Do you forgive for the same reasons I do? Or, do you hold a grudge (I wouldn't blame you)? Are you quick to forgive? What about forgetting? The reason I ask is because I am currently reading 'Sweet As Honey' and it deals with the subject of forgiveness (it is an Amish romance novel by Jennifer Beckstrand) of a wrong done while children and how one young woman struggles with the ability to forgive and forget (to move past it and see the person in a different light). In all honesty, the young man who wronged the young woman never realized (or meant) for the hurt. Funny how that happens, sometimes, eh? Sometimes, we feel wronged even if there was no intention of it... And sometimes those "wrongs" are a blessing in disguise, I think. And, I believe forgiveness is a personal thing and not always about the other person. It is about YOU. So, the next time someone does you a bad turn, think. Was it meant the way I felt it? And, should I forgive the person (with or without them asking for it) for me? Do I want to hold this grudge, or lessen my load by letting it go?
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Ashlee Shades
Ashlee loves sharing a piece of her mind - and her heart - in her blog posts. She hopes you enjoy the musing. Archives
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